Rafikis! Can you actually believe that we are almost done with 2017. It seems like just yesterday when we were all chanting “waste his time 2017” lol. The year has literally flown by so fast. I’m so excited about what the new year has to offer but yet so afraid because of all the change that is to come.
DRESS – ZARA
HAIR – PERUVIAN DEEP WAVE
Does my dress give you ” Wild wild thoughts ” and “pastors wife’s” vibes at the same time? l actually love this dress, from the ruffled hands to the high slit, to the deep red and the off shoulders. I have been loving off shoulder outfits in 2017 and best believe I will continue to rock them in 2018.
This dress truly represents the brand I wish to portray; young, mature, elegant with just a touch of sexy.
How did I do?
I’m consoled by a song I learned whilst in the high school choir.
” Change is one of the only things in life that still remains the same, how great that change is here to stay…”
The only constant thing in this life is God’s love.
I digress, today I will share with you 7 ways that I blossomed in 2017. On the 14th of December I will share 21 lessons I’ve learned before 21. Mark the date please Rafikis! I need you lot to come through with gifts.
1. FINDING MY STYLE.
In 2017, I purposed to dress better. I purposed to find my own style. I cleared out my wardrobe and invested in new clothes. I also inherited very many clothes from my sister some of which she never even wore. The perks of having an older sister. Love you sissy*
” Look Good, Feel Good”.
2. FINDING MY RHYTHM
That for me involved revamping my blog and starting a YouTube channel. Having an outlet to share my thoughts and my new-found style has been amazing. Writing and creating content for me is so therapeutic. I am sure this must be for me because it has positively impacted every other part of my life.
3. BEING VULNERABLE
In order to love or to be loved, one must allow themselves to be vulnerable. In 2017 I broke so many walls and allowed myself to feel things. I allowed my self to feel both romantic and platonic loss. I learned to accept and respect my feelings.
I learned to be very honest with my self. Through soul-searching, I discovered the things that make me happy and the things that drain me. I strive to constantly remain very honest with my self about how I feel. That way I am able to be more in control of my situation as no one can use what I know against me.
5. SPEAKING MY TRUTH
I’ve learned to articulate my feelings boldly and clearly. I’ve learned to stop suffering in silence. When someone wrongs me, I confront them. If something makes me unhappy I raise it. This has meant that I’ve lost very close people in my life because the truth is a painful pill to bear.
6. APPRECIATING DOWN TIME
I’ve learned to truly appreciate down time. It is important to take care of our mental. Be it taking a holiday, taking social media breaks or going to the beach. I have learned to unwind and I love it. I have learned to truly value my own company. It does get lonely sometimes but I find wholeness within myself.
7. TRUSTING IN GOD
” Some people trust in mortal men, I’ll put my trust in The Creator cause His records show He’s never failed”
This has been the most important lesson I have learned in 2017, the only constant thing in life, is HIS LOVE FOR ME. Man will fail me, I will fail me but He can never fail me and for that I will trust in Him.
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Till next time Rafikis,
Love and Sunshine.
Shot using the Iphone 8+
Can you guys tell how far out of my comfort zone Stef is pushing me? Before she come on board, I played it safe with the kind of outfits I posted on here.
But see me now! I was literally rocking a crop top and shorts in this shoot. Granted you may not see the shorts but they were there. Trust me! This is isn’t that kind of blog if you know what I mean.
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Crop top Primark
High waisted shorts H&M
Earrings & Knuckle rings Nyags Creations
Choker- Available on Order
Lately, I’ve been thinking deeply about my future. Up until this point everything has been set out for me. Go to school, get a degree, do not get pregnant etc but after I secure that degree in July (God willing) it will be up to me to decide what my next move will be.
I can decide to pursue my education further, decide to begin my law career, decide to elope, or even decide to work on my blog full time.
The future has so much in store for us. I cannot wait to see where I will be in 5 years.
A few days ago, I mentioned to a friend that I felt ready to settle down. By that I don’t mean that I am ready to go off and marry tomorrow, damn I don’t even have a boyfriend yet. I mean that I feel ready to start working on a future with someone with the end goal of marriage.
Her response was priceless…
She was flabbergasted 😲 The poor girl could not understand HOW at barely 21, I could possibly be ready to be with just one man for the rest of my life.
In her opinion I still had so many things to experience as a single woman which I sort of agree with. She also felt that there was need to kiss some more frogs before making the decision to settle on one. I was not taken as back by her views as she was with my own because I have heard that phenomenon before from several other people.
Over the years I’ve learned the importance of listening. So many people are quick to speak but slow to listen. I think it is such an important virtue which I will pursue further on another date.
After listening to her views, I then reflected on my life and evaluated how two age mates could be at such different head spaces at the same time in their lives.
Then it hit me, I have always been a head of my time. For instance I am only attracted to older lads. I enjoy spending time with people who have experienced more than I have because they challenge me. It is something I have preferred since high school, in fact some of the closest bonds I built while in high school were with my seniors.
It so may be that I went through my rebellion phase before my time. I remember sneaking out to clubs very young.Sorry mum, don’t tell dad. Among other incidents that I will not publicly expose for my own well being.
Even with all that said I’d hate to grow grey hair before my time and so I will aim to live more in the moment. But that for me does not involve kissing several frogs, that is simply just not my portion.
I am also aware that this life has a funny way of humbling us. The future is uncertain hence the best thing you can do is to strive to live your best life, whatever that may mean to you.
Be comfortable in your skin!
Enjoy your own company!
Find your purpose.
If you do not tell the world who you are, it will tell you who you are and that my friend is how death begins. And the worst thing is too feel dead whilst you are still alive.
This shoot took as a few doors down from my house. I have found a new love for street art so much so that the aesthetic of Birmingham makes it my second favorite town in England. London is still number one! But I loved Birmingham because it’s a town that allows people to be, to rebel, to express themselves honestly.
To everyone who is waiting on my YouTube channel, I promise it’s still in the works. Editing videos has proved to be harder than I expected but I promise with time I will get better. Thank you for your continued patience.
Till next time,
Love and Light Rafikis!
Location – Black Griffins Lane
Shot by Stefany Olaka
Outfit details – Mentioned above
I walk by past this amazing tar black wall every other day.
The wall is so pigmented, It’s really such a beautiful wall. I smell petrol when I walk past this wall, that’s how richly black this wall is.
I’ve always wanted to shoot at this wall and finally Stef and I got around to it.
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Ankara Top – Available on Order
White denim – Available at HouseofHussam
Denim Jacket – Borrowed from Stef
Shoes – Primark
The pigment of the wall reminds me of my skin. I was watching a YouTube video and it was about two young black brothers arguing bout their race.
The littlest boy proudly claimed he was ‘brack’ whereas the older brother claimed he was brown. It wasn’t until their dad explained it to them. Their ethnicity was black but the colour of their skin was brown.
If you look closely to some of these pictures, my skin appears to be as black as the walls. The colour has been reflected on to my skin. The two have blended together and I love it.
Have you noticed that I love ankara and denim. It seems like I’m always pairing the two.
I got this black and white material from my mama, there wasn’t much of it and so I opted to make a crop top and matching choker. If you are interested in one HMU.
I love pairing this top with white high waisted jeans that I got from a shop in the Nairobi CBD. I spent the less than £10 on these jeans.
I struggle finding a pair of jeans that fits well as I have a small waist and a big posterior.
I know Topshop and Newlook have good fitting jeans but I am not about to spend £40 each on 4 pairs of Jamie jeans when I can get 4 pairs at the same price elsewhere.
Finally I threw on this jean jacket from Stef. Find you a photographer like mine, one who goes above and beyond to get the perfect shot. We actually almost got arrested for terrorism together. I will actually save that story for my YouTube channel.
Love your skin. Love your melanin. Whether you are red, brown, black or yellow. Love your complexion. Stop allowing society to set fair skin as the standard of beauty.
Your skin colour was is not by accident. You were made as you are for a purpose.
Love and Light ☀️
Location – Black Griffins Lane, Canterbury
Shots by – Stefany Olaka
Can you believe it’s mid October and the sun is shinning in England?
If you have been following me closely, you would know that I have a thing for the sunshine. I was born whilst the sun was shining and even named after the sunshine.
I also purpose daily to unmask sunshine and live my best life, but I am only human, I get tired and stressed.
I am currently a full time final year law student, working a part time job three days a week, running this blog and member of various boards and committees.
I guess it’s all practice for when I become a mum, a wife and a badass career woman! (From my mouth to God’s ears).
I love being productive but sometimes I spread myself to thin by doing the most. This then overwhelms and stresses me.
Luckily I learned early in my first year that the older I became the more conscious effort I would have to make to protect and care for my mental health.
It is essential to take time off to care of your mental 🌺
Seeing as the week just passed was mental health awareness week, I thought it would be helpful to share some of the things I do to take care of my mental health.
Instead of waiting to fully melt down, I unwind as soon as I begin to sense hints of stress and anxiety.
This Saturday I made my way to the beach side to unwind typically I like to unwind alone but on this occasion I went with a friend.
1. Cancel plans
Do not feel guilty about it
Remember, it is mental health is just as important as your physical health.
2. Unplug from social media
Delete your apps for the day and live in the moment.
Keep up with your own life instead of everyone elses.
“Stop trying to stunt for us on the gram, we aren’t even your real friends”
Go to the beach, or take a bath.
There’s is something so therapeutic about water.
4. Work out
Go to the gym, or try out yoga.
Physical workouts release feel good feelings!
5. Try out something new
Try out a salsa class, challenge yourself to an escape adventure or a laser tag game.
It is not ever day turn up for fun, sometimes try live you best caucasian life.
6. Keep Good Company
Spend time with people that will go out of their way to make you laugh.
Spend time with people who genuinely put a smile on your face.
Talking to someone greater than you ,
who has the power to take you through any obstacle is always helpful.
LOCATION – BROADSTAIRS HARBOUR, KENT
PHOTOGRAPHY – IPHONE 8PLUS
DRESS – COTTONON (SISTERS WARDROBE)
CHOCKER- DESIGNED BY ME