Rafikis! Can you actually believe that we are almost done with 2017. It seems like just yesterday when we were all chanting “waste his time 2017” lol. The year has literally flown by so fast. I’m so excited about what the new year has to offer but yet so afraid because of all the change that is to come.
DRESS – ZARA
HAIR – PERUVIAN DEEP WAVE
Does my dress give you ” Wild wild thoughts ” and “pastors wife’s” vibes at the same time? l actually love this dress, from the ruffled hands to the high slit, to the deep red and the off shoulders. I have been loving off shoulder outfits in 2017 and best believe I will continue to rock them in 2018.
This dress truly represents the brand I wish to portray; young, mature, elegant with just a touch of sexy.
How did I do?
I’m consoled by a song I learned whilst in the high school choir.
” Change is one of the only things in life that still remains the same, how great that change is here to stay…”
The only constant thing in this life is God’s love.
I digress, today I will share with you 7 ways that I blossomed in 2017. On the 14th of December I will share 21 lessons I’ve learned before 21. Mark the date please Rafikis! I need you lot to come through with gifts.
1. FINDING MY STYLE.
In 2017, I purposed to dress better. I purposed to find my own style. I cleared out my wardrobe and invested in new clothes. I also inherited very many clothes from my sister some of which she never even wore. The perks of having an older sister. Love you sissy*
” Look Good, Feel Good”.
2. FINDING MY RHYTHM
That for me involved revamping my blog and starting a YouTube channel. Having an outlet to share my thoughts and my new-found style has been amazing. Writing and creating content for me is so therapeutic. I am sure this must be for me because it has positively impacted every other part of my life.
3. BEING VULNERABLE
In order to love or to be loved, one must allow themselves to be vulnerable. In 2017 I broke so many walls and allowed myself to feel things. I allowed my self to feel both romantic and platonic loss. I learned to accept and respect my feelings.
I learned to be very honest with my self. Through soul-searching, I discovered the things that make me happy and the things that drain me. I strive to constantly remain very honest with my self about how I feel. That way I am able to be more in control of my situation as no one can use what I know against me.
5. SPEAKING MY TRUTH
I’ve learned to articulate my feelings boldly and clearly. I’ve learned to stop suffering in silence. When someone wrongs me, I confront them. If something makes me unhappy I raise it. This has meant that I’ve lost very close people in my life because the truth is a painful pill to bear.
6. APPRECIATING DOWN TIME
I’ve learned to truly appreciate down time. It is important to take care of our mental. Be it taking a holiday, taking social media breaks or going to the beach. I have learned to unwind and I love it. I have learned to truly value my own company. It does get lonely sometimes but I find wholeness within myself.
7. TRUSTING IN GOD
” Some people trust in mortal men, I’ll put my trust in The Creator cause His records show He’s never failed”
This has been the most important lesson I have learned in 2017, the only constant thing in life, is HIS LOVE FOR ME. Man will fail me, I will fail me but He can never fail me and for that I will trust in Him.
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Till next time Rafikis,
Love and Sunshine.
Shot using the Iphone 8+
I walk by past this amazing tar black wall every other day.
The wall is so pigmented, It’s really such a beautiful wall. I smell petrol when I walk past this wall, that’s how richly black this wall is.
I’ve always wanted to shoot at this wall and finally Stef and I got around to it.
Shop this Look 👀
Ankara Top – Available on Order
White denim – Available at HouseofHussam
Denim Jacket – Borrowed from Stef
Shoes – Primark
The pigment of the wall reminds me of my skin. I was watching a YouTube video and it was about two young black brothers arguing bout their race.
The littlest boy proudly claimed he was ‘brack’ whereas the older brother claimed he was brown. It wasn’t until their dad explained it to them. Their ethnicity was black but the colour of their skin was brown.
If you look closely to some of these pictures, my skin appears to be as black as the walls. The colour has been reflected on to my skin. The two have blended together and I love it.
Have you noticed that I love ankara and denim. It seems like I’m always pairing the two.
I got this black and white material from my mama, there wasn’t much of it and so I opted to make a crop top and matching choker. If you are interested in one HMU.
I love pairing this top with white high waisted jeans that I got from a shop in the Nairobi CBD. I spent the less than £10 on these jeans.
I struggle finding a pair of jeans that fits well as I have a small waist and a big posterior.
I know Topshop and Newlook have good fitting jeans but I am not about to spend £40 each on 4 pairs of Jamie jeans when I can get 4 pairs at the same price elsewhere.
Finally I threw on this jean jacket from Stef. Find you a photographer like mine, one who goes above and beyond to get the perfect shot. We actually almost got arrested for terrorism together. I will actually save that story for my YouTube channel.
Love your skin. Love your melanin. Whether you are red, brown, black or yellow. Love your complexion. Stop allowing society to set fair skin as the standard of beauty.
Your skin colour was is not by accident. You were made as you are for a purpose.
Love and Light ☀️
Location – Black Griffins Lane, Canterbury
Shots by – Stefany Olaka
Can you believe it’s mid October and the sun is shinning in England?
If you have been following me closely, you would know that I have a thing for the sunshine. I was born whilst the sun was shining and even named after the sunshine.
I also purpose daily to unmask sunshine and live my best life, but I am only human, I get tired and stressed.
I am currently a full time final year law student, working a part time job three days a week, running this blog and member of various boards and committees.
I guess it’s all practice for when I become a mum, a wife and a badass career woman! (From my mouth to God’s ears).
I love being productive but sometimes I spread myself to thin by doing the most. This then overwhelms and stresses me.
Luckily I learned early in my first year that the older I became the more conscious effort I would have to make to protect and care for my mental health.
It is essential to take time off to care of your mental 🌺
Seeing as the week just passed was mental health awareness week, I thought it would be helpful to share some of the things I do to take care of my mental health.
Instead of waiting to fully melt down, I unwind as soon as I begin to sense hints of stress and anxiety.
This Saturday I made my way to the beach side to unwind typically I like to unwind alone but on this occasion I went with a friend.
1. Cancel plans
Do not feel guilty about it
Remember, it is mental health is just as important as your physical health.
2. Unplug from social media
Delete your apps for the day and live in the moment.
Keep up with your own life instead of everyone elses.
“Stop trying to stunt for us on the gram, we aren’t even your real friends”
Go to the beach, or take a bath.
There’s is something so therapeutic about water.
4. Work out
Go to the gym, or try out yoga.
Physical workouts release feel good feelings!
5. Try out something new
Try out a salsa class, challenge yourself to an escape adventure or a laser tag game.
It is not ever day turn up for fun, sometimes try live you best caucasian life.
6. Keep Good Company
Spend time with people that will go out of their way to make you laugh.
Spend time with people who genuinely put a smile on your face.
Talking to someone greater than you ,
who has the power to take you through any obstacle is always helpful.
LOCATION – BROADSTAIRS HARBOUR, KENT
PHOTOGRAPHY – IPHONE 8PLUS
DRESS – COTTONON (SISTERS WARDROBE)
CHOCKER- DESIGNED BY ME
Did I mention that I am currently back in the U.K. to complete my final year of law school. I had a superb time whilst on holiday in Nairobi, from spending time with family to interacting with different creatives and working on my blog.
I rediscovered myself by learning , unlearning, mastering and loving myself.
“Unlearn, learn, master yourself and love yourself or else they will define you and that’s a poisonous kind of life. That’s death” – Ijeoma Umebinyuo
It has been such a pleasure for me to share my beloved city with you on this platform. I love that I was able to take you along to some of my most treasured locations.
Unfortunately or fortunately as with life everything must come to an end. This however is not a good bye but only a see you later. I will definitely still be sharing more of my city with you when I get the opportunity do so.
My city and I are in an abusive long distance relationship, sometimes it does not love me back in the way I need to be loved but none the less I love my city, Oh yes I do. It is the only home I have ever known. Nairobi will always be my first love irregardless of any other cities I may fall in love with along the way! For that I dedicate this post to her.
In appreciation of her, I opted to embrace her from head to toe. My outfit with the exception of my wig were either made or bought in Nairobi.
On this occasion my team and I (one day I will have a team) opted for the most popular thrift store in Nairobi. We shot at Toi Market! Despite the stares and paranoid sellers it was a really awesome experience. I will definitely be back to shoot and shop there!
Indian Deep wave wig – Lores Beauty Box by Grace Ajilore
Customised by – Phoina Beauty
Yellow Kente – Ghana
Play suit – Tailored in Nairobi
Boots- Backyard Shoez, Adlife
Accessories – Toi Market
Do not fret though! This is not the end, it is instead the beginning of a new adventure. Together with Stefany Olaka (plug with the camera) we shall explore Canterbury, London and other parts of the country. From beauty secrets, to life advice I hope you will get to know and love the real me. So do follow me on my social media to get to know me better.
One last thing! Unmasking Achieng will be live on YouTube by the end of the year.
Until next time,
My beloved city.