It’s okay to fall down and lose your spark. Just make sure that when you get back up, you rise the whole damn fire! – Colette Werden

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Similar Faux Fur Coat – Dennis Basso
 After Dusk Laced Heeled Boots – Backyard shoes
Hoop Earrings –  Primark

Every year I hope it snows!  Luckily for me, three months to the end of my degree it snowed! No NOT just politely but in plenty.

I was so excited for the first two days. It was really beautiful to look at but now I’m over it. I could go another 10 years without experiencing the snow and be just fine.

I’m over the winter blues…

Every winter I find myself in a funk where my emotions and energy levels stay low.  All I want to do is stay in bed all day. On the rare occasions I leave the house, I wear the dullest clothes in my closet. I even get upset when I see people dressed in yellow! Like why would you walk around in such bright colours while the atmosphere is sombre?

I digress, here are a few ways I tackle the winter blues.

  • A Hug in a cup – nothing warms my heart like a hot chocolate with marshmallows and cream.
  • Rhythms and Blues – listening to Daniel Caesar’s voice helps me get in touch with my emotions.
  • Meditation – I discovered the Headspace app from Sharon Mundia that schedules a meditation session for me each morning.
  • Cuddles – Teddy Jr and Teddy Snr keep me warm at night.
  • Deep conversations with family and friends.
  • Self-Care – Putting more effort into taking care of myself as a woman. Embracing my femininity makes me feel so damn good.
  • Sharing on this platform with you enables me to vent. This is my safe space.
  • Believing the funk will pass and the sun will shine.
  • A Blue Dennis Basso faux fur coat that keeps me warm.



I have had this coat since I joined university but it has never really gotten cold enough for me to wear it. The snowy days provided me the opportunity to rock the coat without looking like a dam fool. I actually inherited the coat from my sister and I must say the quality is great considering that she got it very many years ago.



Shout out to my favourite photographer Stefany Armoni, who braved the negative degrees with me just to get these snow shots. Also, shout out to the Almighty God for protecting me from pneumonia. Considering my toes and legs were literally exposed to the cold! I know! Sorry mum but I figured that this was probably the only chance I’d get to shoot in the snow or in this coat.

In the process of shooting, I may have ruined my favourite heel boots. Ask me why I thought it would be a good idea to where heeled boots in the snow? Anyway we live and we learn plus I’m hoping that some cobbler in Nairobi can fix them. As you already know by now in Wakanda everything is fixable.


I know I’ve been missing for a while now, it’s just the winter blues! I’ll be back once it comes to pass. I promise to pop in once in a while.

Till next time,

Stay warm Rafikis!

Shot by Stef Armoni
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It’s been a while. A month to be exact.

Is it too late for me to wish you a Happy New Year?

Are you still there? Did you miss me?

Hopefully you’ve been keeping up with me on my YouTube channel. I took time off this space to re-evaluate my purpose. I now realise what this platform means to me. Coming onto my blog and re-reading my old post reminds me of why I started blogging in the first place. Unmasking Achieng is my diary, it is my therapy. This is one of the places I find healing. It is also a place where I share my truth with you. To be honest, this is just my way of dealing with all the emotions I face. I’m back for now.

Let’s take stock.


Making: the most of my time in University.  I recognise that this should be the most exciting  season of my life. I am old enough  to do all the things I want to do but still young enough to be free off responsibility.  I would never want to look back at this period with regret.  As my time in Uni comes to an end, I want to milk the most of it.

Eating: better, not as healthy but more regularly. I am no longer waiting to feel hungry to eat but rather pushing my self to eat regular meals.

Drinking: more water. My mum bought me the cutest water bottle and I love it. I try to drink at least a litter and a half day.

Reading:  Her Roots by Lanji Ouko. I have never related to a book as much as I have to Her Roots. She shares her experience as young woman and as an international student. Things that affect me too. Thank you Lanji for sending me the book.

Wanting: to do better, I’m still yet to work on my 2018 vision board.

Playing:  AfroBeats and Gospel concurrently. Some mornings I opt for the word to uplift my spirits, other mornings I opt for AfroBeats to feel energised for the day.

Wasting: money. I really need to do better, this month I must stick to my budget.

Creating: and uploading YouTube videos every Wednesday at 8AM Kenyan time. Subscribe, please!

Wishing: I could see my life in 5 years, just to see if some of the things I’m working so hard and stressing about now are worth it.

Enjoying: being on YouTube, shooting chitchat videos and sharing my experiences on there is so exciting!

Loving: God, and understanding that is only through Him that I can truly love myself and extend that love to others. This valentines I focus on that because singleness is my current state.

Hoping: my life to go as planned. As I graduate from University, I hope that right doors open for me.

Marvelling: at Maleek Berry. For just £16 /2000 kshs/= I got to see Ycee , Burna Boy, Mr. Eazi, Not3s and Eugy at his concert. Berry’s Room might just be my favourite room.

Smelling: like Miss Dior by Christian Dior on special days, and like Shanghai Limited Edition by Victoria’s Secret Bombshell on the regular.

Wearing: my winter coats, day in and out. This British cold is real.

Following: more African bloggers and YouTubers. Truth is we all need each other and there is room on here for all of us to flourish.

Noticing: that vibes are very important. You must guard yourself by ensure that your inner circle is positive. It is always the people we love the most that have the power to hurt us. The enemy is usually within, stay woke.

Knowing: and believing that I do not have to chase what is meant for me.

Feeling: peaceful, I am coming to terms with my reality. Through meditation and prayer I’ve found peace.

Bookmarking: law textbooks and legal articles. Final year of law School does that to you.

Opening: up my mind to new possibilities, ideologies and beliefs. I am just interested in knowing more and understanding people better. The other day I actually went into a freemason museum! I could have never done that before but now I’m braver. I mean I would never go back but still.

Giggling: at Idris Okuneye better known as Bobrisky. His snapchat is hilarious!

Love and light.





Happy Holidays Rafikis!

Apologies for my silence, I took the last two months off to grow. I needed the time off to work on my craft. Going into the new year I would like to  provide you with even greater content.

I’ve been putting in more effort, time and money to make this blog lit. I’ve also collaborated with other creatives both on the blog and on my YouTube channel to bring you amazing content.

Despite the breather, I hope you didn’t forget me and I promise to do better in 2018.

As for now I thought I’d share with you lessons that I’ll be carrying with me into the new year.


No one can rob you of what truly belongs to you. If something is meant to be for you it will be yours.  If not, it wasn’t meant to be yours in the first place.

Whatever happened over this past year. Be thankful for where it brought you. Where you are is exactly where you are meant to be 🌴🌺


Disappointments are part and parcel of  life.  Don’t sweat the small stuff! Not every situation deserves a reaction from you. With regards to the big stuff, take time off to mourn and heal but thereafter pick yourself up and keep moving. If you are healthy and alive , you are better off than most people.

Lord grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.


Every so often take time off to care for yourself. Be it taking a day off, disengaging from social media, taking a solo trip or even getting your nails done. Purpose to take time off to care for your mental health.


Above all else, guard your heart for everything you do flows from it.

Not every single person that pays you a compliment deserves a place in your heart, choose wisely!

Guard your craft too, as a creative , you must hold your work dear to your heart.


Sounds like common sense, but often we sacrifice for the wrong people and end up hurting the people who would actually ride for us, choose wisely! Be it a platonic or romantic relationship. Choose those who choose you!


It’s important to be honest with yourself about how you feel, about what you need and what you feel you deserve. You must also be honest with others, if someone hurts you tell them how they hurt you! Communicate your emotions.




Rafikis! Can you actually believe that we are almost done with 2017. It seems like just yesterday when we were all chanting “waste his time 2017” lol. The year has literally flown by so fast. I’m so excited about what the new year has to offer but yet so afraid because of all the change that is to come.




Does my dress give you ” Wild wild thoughts ” and “pastors wife’s” vibes at the same time? l actually love this dress, from the ruffled hands to the high slit, to the deep red and the off shoulders. I have been loving off shoulder outfits in 2017 and best believe I will continue to rock them in 2018.

This dress truly represents the brand I wish to portray;  young, mature, elegant with just a touch of sexy.

How did I do?


I’m consoled by a song I learned whilst in the high school choir.

” Change is one of the only things in life that still remains the same, how great that change is here to stay…”

The only constant thing in this life is God’s love.

I digress, today I will share with you 7 ways that I blossomed in 2017.  On the 14th of December I will share 21 lessons I’ve learned before 21. Mark the date please Rafikis! I need you lot to come through with gifts.



In 2017, I purposed to dress better. I purposed to find my own style. I cleared out my wardrobe and invested in new clothes. I also inherited very many clothes from my sister some of which she never even wore. The perks of having an older sister. Love you sissy*

” Look Good, Feel Good”.



That for me involved revamping my blog and starting a YouTube channel. Having an outlet to share my thoughts and my new-found style has been amazing. Writing and creating content for me is so therapeutic. I am sure this must be for me because it has positively impacted every other part of my life.




In order to love or to be loved, one must allow themselves to be vulnerable. In 2017 I broke so many walls and allowed myself to feel things. I allowed my self to feel both romantic and platonic loss. I learned to accept and respect my feelings.


I learned to be very honest with my self.  Through soul-searching, I discovered the things that make me happy and the things that drain me. I strive to constantly remain very honest with my self about how I feel. That way I am able to be more in control of my situation as no one can use what I know against me.



I’ve learned to articulate my feelings boldly and clearly. I’ve learned to stop suffering in silence. When someone wrongs me, I confront them. If something makes me unhappy I raise it. This has meant that I’ve lost very close people in my life because the truth is a painful pill to bear.


I’ve learned to truly appreciate down time. It is important to take care of our mental. Be it taking a holiday, taking social media breaks or going to the beach. I have learned to unwind and I love it. I have learned to truly value my own company. It does get lonely sometimes but I find wholeness within myself.




” Some people trust in mortal men, I’ll put my trust in The Creator cause His records show He’s never failed”

This has been the most important lesson I have learned in 2017, the only constant thing in life, is HIS LOVE FOR ME. Man will fail me, I will fail me but He can never fail me and for that I will trust in Him.



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Till next time Rafikis,

Love and Sunshine.

Shot using the Iphone 8+