Can you guys tell how far out of my comfort zone Stef is pushing me? Before she come on board, I  played it safe with the kind of outfits I posted on here.

But see me now! I was literally rocking a crop top and shorts in this shoot. Granted you may not see the shorts but they were there. Trust me! This is isn’t that kind of blog if you know what I mean.

Shop this look 👀

Crop top Primark

High waisted shorts H&M

Sneakers H&M

Earrings & Knuckle rings Nyags Creations

Choker- Available on Order


Lately, I’ve been thinking deeply about my future. Up until this point everything has been set out for me. Go to school, get a degree, do not get pregnant etc but after I secure that degree in July (God willing) it will be up to me to decide what my next move will be.

I can decide to pursue my education further, decide to begin my law career, decide to elope, or even decide to work on my blog full time.

The future has so much in store for us. I cannot wait to see where I will be in 5 years.

A few days ago, I mentioned to a friend that I felt ready to settle down. By that I don’t mean that I am ready to go off and marry tomorrow, damn I don’t even have a boyfriend yet. I mean that I feel ready to start working on a future with someone with the end goal of marriage.

Her response was priceless…

She was flabbergasted 😲 The poor girl could not understand HOW at barely 21, I could possibly be ready to be with just one man for the rest of my life.

In her opinion I still had so many things to experience as a single woman which I sort of agree with. She also felt that there was need to kiss some more frogs before making the decision to settle on one. I was not taken as back by her views as she was  with my own because I have heard that phenomenon before from several other people.

Over the years I’ve learned the importance of listening. So many people are quick to speak but slow to listen. I think it is such an important virtue which I will pursue further on another date.

After listening to her views, I then reflected on my life and evaluated how two age mates could be at such different head spaces at the same time in their lives.

Then it hit me, I have always been a head of my time. For instance I am only attracted to older lads. I enjoy spending time with people who have experienced more than I have because they challenge me. It is something I have preferred since high school, in fact some of the closest bonds I built while in high school were with my seniors.

It so may be that I went through my rebellion phase before my time. I remember sneaking out to clubs very young.Sorry mum, don’t tell dad. Among other incidents that I will not publicly expose for my own well being.

Even with all that said I’d hate to grow grey hair before my time and so I will aim to live more in the moment. But that for me does not involve kissing several frogs, that is simply just not my portion.

I am also aware that this life has a funny way of humbling us. The future is uncertain hence the best thing you can do is to strive to live your best life, whatever that may mean to you.

Be comfortable in your skin!

Enjoy your own company!

Find your purpose.

If you do not tell the world who you are, it will tell you who you are and that my friend is how death begins. And the worst thing is too feel dead whilst you are still alive.

This shoot took as a few doors down from my house. I have found a new love for street art so much so that the aesthetic of Birmingham makes it my second favorite town in England. London is still number one! But I loved Birmingham because it’s a town that allows people to be, to rebel, to express themselves honestly.

To everyone who is waiting on my YouTube channel, I promise it’s still in the works. Editing videos has proved to be harder than I expected but I promise with time I will get better. Thank you for your continued patience.

Till next time,

Love and Light Rafikis!

Location – Black Griffins Lane
Shot by Stefany Olaka
Outfit details – Mentioned above


  1. November 13, 2017 / 12:55 pm

    i do really enjoy reading your writings and i hope writing a book is one your future goals coz ill be the first one to buy it hehehe

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